Learning to Understand Baby

    Understand Baby

    Learning to understand baby is the first thing every mother starts doing after her little one’s birth.

    Babies do reflectively most of their actions. When they are hungry or dissatisfied, they will automatically start crying. A tip “think first, then act” is not suitable for them in any way.

    Every attentive mother can master the art to determine what her baby is trying to tell her, to respond and help him.

    So, what he wants to tell you and how can you help him?

    He is interested

    How does it look like?

    The baby is focused, he is intently and excitedly peering into something (usually an object). He lowers and raises his eyebrows, his mouth is slightly open, and he can move his eyes from the object he is looking at to something else, but again returns his eyes to the first one.

    What to do?

    Of course, it is not too exciting for you to shake a rattle, but it would be something marvelous for your baby. Extend his capabilities – allow him to touch something new and play with it if it is safe. Encourage his interest in the new feelings and experiences, comment everything that happens, even if you will look like a sports commentator: “This is a new rattle, it rattles when I’m knocking like this. Come on, take it into your hand and wave.” Exploring the world together with you accelerates your baby’s brain development. When the baby not just points to a toy but reaches for it, he needs to get more information, and thus a period of active learning begins.

    He is upset

    How does it look like?

    Corners of his mouth are lowered, eyebrows are slightly raised and frowned, his chin is trembling and you may hear a whimper. These signals indicate that the baby is upset and possibly overexcited, so if you do not respond, you will get screams and inconsolable crying.

    What to do?

    Provide your baby with peace and quiet. A large number of impressions, a long walk or very active relatives – all these can cause tears and anxiety. At first just take him in your arms, his face to you, and gently press him to your breast – the baby will be calmed down by a soft rhythmic rocking, gentle massage, and your society.

    He is bored

    How does it look like?

    He demands your attention: he is whining, groaning, screaming and whimpering, is throwing the toys on the floor. He smiles and laughs, if you pay attention to him or raise the thrown toy from the floor.

    What to do?

    It’s great that the baby asks your attention, this means that there is a strong bond between you. As the baby’s brain, develops his need in new methods of stimulation increases. If your 3 month old baby can spend hours just looking at your face or a picture on a towel, then he will need something more interesting just in a couple of months. Offer him something simple that you can play in different ways with. The same rattle can bend, sound or “run away” from the baby around the bed, and a bright handkerchief can be a ball, can “fly”, or just be wound around. Sing a familiar song – but change its rhythm, speed of performance and tone of your voice, add new words.

    You should not be the only source of entertainment – your baby at 4 months of age needs time to just study by himself what he sees around.

    He is angry

    How does it look like?

    Baby’s face is red and tense, his eyes are half closed, he loudly and desperately cries and refuses to contact – pushes or even beats you.

    What to do?

    Your baby’s emotions are still very simple, his brain is not developed for complex concepts such as, for example, jealousy or shame. If you are sure that nothing worries the baby, he does not have a cold and stuffy nose, perhaps then he is hungry or tired of impressions. Then the simplest ways will help: to feed, to hug and to help fall asleep. Soothe your baby and do not cry in any case even if you are very excited. Stroke him, rock gently, whisper something soothing.

    Mommy, I’m looking at you!

    The baby is carefully studying your face for a reason – he is thus studying the world. Help him! Your behavior has a direct impact on his development. Here are ways to make it more effective.

    Eye to Eye.” Eye contact is a key element in communication and mutual understanding between you and your baby. Do not hide your eyes, let your baby examine your face for a long time. “We are brave.”

    The baby unwittingly copies your facial expressions. Before you enter a new place with him or meet a babysitter for the first time, courage and inspiration should be the most plausible on your face. He will repeat after you – and imitation of your “optimism” will drive away his possible fears.

    “What’s that?”

    Comment your emotions. Play with your baby: pull different faces and tell him what facial expression this is. Show him joy, sadness, laughter or fear and comment: “Mom is laughing”, “Mom is happy”, “Mom is crying.” The earlier you will start educating the baby, the more quickly he will begin to recognize the emotions by himself.

    He is frightened

    How does it look like?

    The eyes are wide open and fixed, the chin and hands can slightly tremble. Maybe the baby is cold and does not move, and maybe he is inconsolably crying.

    What to do?

    He is too young to calm down on his own, and moreover, he still cannot determine what has scared him. An ordinary car horn sounds as a background noise to you, because you know that this is the sound of a car, and the baby, when heard it for the first time, may panic. Take the baby in your arms, and tell what exactly has frightened him. Even if he does not understand your words, your calm voice will tell him that everything is OK.

    He feels discomfort

    How does it look like?

    The child is crying, the crying often starts suddenly, his face is red and tense, legs move and press actively to the tummy.

    What to do?

    This can be a sign of colic – painful spasms in the abdomen. A soft tummy massage can help relief flatulence – perform the exercise “bicycle”. The painful colic is also reduced by warmth – you can put a just ironed warm nappy on the baby’s tummy; shake him in a sling or just carry him in your arms, hug him and put his tummy on your shoulder. If within a half an hour the baby does not feel better – you should consult a doctor.

    He is happy

    How does it look like?

    There is a broad and pleased (and very infectious!) smile on the baby’s face. He actively waves his arms and legs, mutters something; his intonation of “conversation” is uprising.

    What to do?

    Watch and enjoy the marvelous sight. Support the baby’s good mood, smile in response, stir him – thus you will give him confidence and reinforce the desire to share his joy with you. He likes to see that his smile gets such a positive response. Being about the age of 8-9 months, the baby has a sense of object permanency, that is, he understands that an object exists even if he does not currently see it. This is the right time to start playing “Peek-a-Boo” game with the baby. You can hide by yourself or hide the toys. Such games will rejoice your little one very much. It’s also a great way to calm your baby if he is inconsolably crying.

    So, it can be said that baby’s education starts with the desire for comfort and more full satisfaction of his needs.

    I cry – and mom takes me in her arms. I keep crying – she feeds me. I cry when I’m alone – and she takes me in her hands again.” After such repeated signals and responses, a picture is being developed in baby’s brain that reflects the expected result of his crying. The more these images the baby creates, the better his mind develops.

    Pictures or images are created not only in the head of the baby waiting for help from parents. They, too, create an image of what their child wants. Thus invisible threads are stretched from the baby’s consciousness to his mother’s one.

    But what happens to the baby whose parents do not respond to their signals fearing to make their baby too dependent or to be held in his subjugation. Child’s mind, whose calls remain unanswered and needs not satisfied, is not so rich. Not knowing what kind of response he should expect for, he cannot create an image that will hint him what should be followed by his cry or some other signal. His head is filled with “empty cards”. Mother is rather poorer as well because the baby’s signals do not improve and it is still very difficult for her to understand what he wants. There is no such understanding between them as in the first case. Mother and baby know little about each other’s thoughts, and a certain distance begins to appear between them.

    And the last thing I want to mention about is that you shouldn’t fear to do something wrong. You simply cannot do because if the baby started crying, you will check the possible reasons until you find something that bothers your baby. Above all, with these actions you show that you are willing to listen to him and trying to help him.

    How do you cope with your baby’s crying? Do you have any tips to share with other parents? Share your experience and wisdom below!


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